In Teaching Children and Grandchildren To
I discuss the value of helping children
appreciate the value of sharing and
contributing one's time and energy with
others in need.
In Tips for Keeping Yourself Centered
When You Receive Shocking News I offer
suggestions for processing difficult news
while still maintaining the ability to
function and do what you have to do.
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Teaching Children And Grandchildren To Be Charitable
Who could argue the value for children
learning early about the importance of giving
their time and money to others? By
understanding what it means to be charitable,
children can focus on others and the larger
world. They can appreciate the
interconnectness of all people as they pay
attention to the reality that some people
live in less fortunate circumstances than
others. Finally, they learn that each of us
has the ability and responsibility to
contribute to making the world a better
Encouraging charitable thoughts and action
benefits the children themselves. They
can learn empathy for others; they see
their actions can lead to a positive outcome;
and they feel connected to a particular
community -whether local, regional or
international. Additionally, a charitable
mindset broadens their ability to comprehend
and better cope with their own challenging
Many children think only of themselves. The world
revolves around them and their needs. Helping
our children and grandchildren to become
aware of and to focus on the
needs of others is essential to helping them
understand their place in the larger world.
Here are some ways you can introduce children
to the importance of sharing with and giving
Be a model. When children know that being
charitable is a value in your family they
comprehend that this is what "this family"
believes in and does. Begin with
conversation. When you pass someone in need,
talk about that person's situation with
compassion and empathy. Be careful NOT to
talk about anyone in need with derision or
blame. Your discussion will be guided by the
age and maturity of your child. Always
respect the humanity of the person or people
you discuss. If you see someone who is
obviously homeless, you may talk about giving
money, books or clothing to a local homeless
You can help your child decide which
organizations can be recipients of your
child's time, clothes, toys,
food and/or money. Depending on your child's
age, help him or her research the
different programs and guide them in
involved. It might be helpful to begin
locally so that your child can see first-hand
the impact of a particular organization.
(Buying, bagging and delivering food to a
soup kitchen; sorting through toys that your
child no longer plays with and participating
in cleaning them and wrapping them for
children at a community pre-school). Perhaps
your child would like to sort through some of
his or her gently used clothes and bring them
to a particular site. Some kids enjoy
bringing sandwiches or cookies to the
volunteers at the local fire department.
Consider organizations addressing issues of
particular interest to your child, such as
animal sanctuaries, literacy programs, kids
who are ill
(collecting baseball caps for kids who lose
their hair due to cancer treatments).
Encourage your child to volunteer in an
organization or in an activity that is
meaningful to them. This could include
reading to, and playing games with residents
at a nursing home, or writing get-well cards
to military service members. Once children
decide on a organization, discuss and come up
with a plan to regularly set aside part of
their allowance for charity. Discuss with
them possible allotments, such as 10-15%
By getting your children involved with
charity in one form or another, you can help
them look within to find out what is really
important and what their own values are. They
will also learn that the reward of
knowing that they did something kind or
generous for someone else.
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May 5th: 11:00AM - 2:00PM, Speaker,
Program is sponsored
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Aging Well Presentation with Rabbi Edy
May 8th: 5:30PM Synyaplex Shabbat
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May 11th: 7:15PM - 8:15PM, Keynote
Giovanni's Restaurant & Banquet Hall, 610
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Oregon Chapter of the AG Bell Association
of the Deaf
May 16th: 9:15AM - 11:30AM, Keynote
Speaker, Topic: Sanity Saving for Families
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their Parents; 2:00 - 3:00PM: Moderator of
Panel on Family Dynamics.
Oregon Health and Sciences University,
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See Dr. Atkins' article, Wedding Sanity
Savers, in the May 10, 2009
issue of LA Times Magazine.
Hear Dr. Atkins on the radio
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A Good Daily Habit
Relaxing Before Going To Sleep
Some of us find it difficult to fall asleep
when we climb into bed. Our minds keep
racing. We think of something that we have
forgotten to do
that day, or mull over unresolved issues.
With challenging schedules and driving desire
to fill each moment, it is common for many
people to keep the clock running - and never
turn it off. What we need to remember is that
sleep helps us function optimally. Sleep
deprivation does us no good at all. We can
work things out, get insight and a fresh
perspective when we "sleep on it." We rest
Practicing relaxation techniques prior to
sleeping can help us sleep more deeply and
aid in restoring our energy to
confront daily challenges. Techniques
include a soaking in a warm bath, practicing
bedtime yoga postures, reading inspirational
passages,listening to soothing music, doing a
progressive body relaxation, engaging in self
Practice any of these suggestions and before
you go to sleep, tell yourself you will sleep
deeply and well.
By psychologically preparing ourselves for
sleep, we can achieve the desired respite.
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Tips For Keeping Yourself Centered When You Receive Shocking News
Inevitably, we will receive shocking news at some
point in our lives.
It is important that we learn to deal with
this sort of news so that we can keep
ourselves well during the process and recover
from the shock. This requires us to develop
the ability to confront trauma in a healthy
way. Here are some tips to help you focus
during such difficult times:
- Take Things Slowly - Your
ability to process information may be
impaired so consciously slow down.
- Get Help So You Can Focus - Rely
on others to help since you may not be
- Get Rest And Eat Well - You will
need all of your reserves.
- Keep A List Of What To Do and What Has
Been Done - Don't rely on your memory
because the stress of the shock makes it
difficult to remember and keep yourself
- Focus On Facts, But Allow Room For
Emotions - Do what you have to do; take
action, but give yourself time and space to
feel the emotional response.
- Tell Yourself You'll Be OK - You
don't have to know how you will, but tell
yourself you will get through this.
Being caught off guard with the arrival of
startling, bad news is difficult to manage at
first because there is no warning and there
is a tendency to deny what you are
confronting. Take some
time to focus and center yourself, conserve
energy, and assess viable next steps.
"If I am not for myself, who will be for me?
If I am not for others, what am I? And if not
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lecturer and commentator in the media who
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She has more than twenty-
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Dr. Atkins is the author
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