September often means going back to school,
work, and the start of new projects. Summer
vacations are behind us and with challenging
economic times, some of us may have made
adjustments in spending, having had
"staycations" instead of going somewhere.
Whether you think your summer was productive
or not, or if it was not as you had hoped,
think of ways you can move forward and enjoy
life while achieving goals and reveling in
the relationships you have. In other words,
do not let go of the value of staying
positive and hopeful in your attitude. What
were the positive things that did happen this
past summer? What did you learn about
yourself that you can apply to future
relationship matters, health, school, and
life in general?
In Facing a Lack of Acknowledgment I
focus on the difficult experience of doing
something for someone else or being there for
someone else and not having your efforts or
your presence acknowledged.
In this month's tips, Helping Someone:
Tips for Offering Help and Following Through
Graciously, I provide tips to guide you
when you are in the position of helping
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Facing a Lack of Acknowledgment
Just because you suspend judgment and cease
being critical, does not insure you against
being judged and criticized by others.
In my newsletters I often comment on the
importance of being grateful and
appreciative. We are often disturbed when we
"show up" or do things for people who are
unable or unwilling to show gratitude or
appreciation. Why and how do we continue to
be helpful or available? What motivates us?
Is it because of our feelings toward God or
some higher power? Is it because we realize
at some point people we need to do what we
think is the right thing even if the
recipient can't say or show appreciation?
Only you can determine how far you are
willing to go and willing to give. Life
circumstances consistently change and you may
be called upon to help at a time when the
people you are helping are just unable to
receive your help with grace. Understand that
you may not "get anything back" except the
satisfaction that you know you are doing the
right thing. Do not expect that others will
appreciate what you are doing and that it may
be difficult for you. Your experience is
yours alone. Not everyone has empathy. This
is especially true where there are
generational differences. Younger people
often do not understand that older people
have a different reserve of energy and may
fatigue more quickly. You are the only one
who can put limits on what is reasonable for
you at this time.
Do what you think is right in your own heart,
and do not expect to have a parade in your
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Witness an unstoppable, forward-thinking
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motivation, and support to help us overcome
our daily challenges.
|Sanity SaversTM TIPS
Tips for Offering Help and Following Through Graciously
September is a month when many people begin
new projects and find themselves organizing
and re-organizing to get their lives back
into a routine which may have changed during
the summer. In order to do this, we all can
use some help.
Here are some tips to follow when you are in
the position of helping someone in some way,
whether it is changing a light bulb, sitting
with someone during a chemotherapy treatment,
driving someone's kids to school,
accompanying a friend to an AA meeting,
picking up groceries, walking someone's dog,
taking out the trash, or offering a lift to
church to someone who is no longer
comfortable behind the wheel. Whatever it is,
do it with grace and a smile.
- Be Gracious - Thank the person for
giving you the chance to be useful and helpful.
- Do Not Complain -
Even if you do not want to do the task, you
accepted the "assignment," so do it without
complaining or negativitiy.
Whatever it is, do it with grace and a smile.
Do not offer or accept a request for help if
you are going to appear "put out, put off or
unhappy" about it. Remember, helping someone
is one of the most important things you can
do in your life.
"The Best Exercise for the Human Heart is
Kneeling Down and Helping Someone Up"
DALE V. ATKINS Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist,
lecturer and commentator in the media who
on the Today show.
She has more than twenty-
years of experience and focuses on living a
life, parenting, aging well, managing stress,
work transitions, family connections and healthy
Dr. Atkins is the author
and/or co-editor of several books including:
Their Private Thoughts about their Private
Families and their Hearing-Impaired
OK, You're My Parents
Let Go of Anger and Create a Relationship that
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Handle the Stickiest Dilemmas, Scrapes and
Questions that Arise on the Road to Your Perfect
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