Over the past several weeks there has been
much needed discussion about words, and the
thoughts behind those words. We all respond
differently to what is acceptable and
unacceptable, offensive and stupid. But what
would happen if we just thought more before
we spoke? If we really considered the
effects of our words on others, as well as
how those words reflect on us, we might think
differently about what we say.
Much of what we say is mindless. Much of what
we say is critical or negative. Try to stop
talking and listen to your thoughts. You can
discover clarity in silence. Ghandi practiced
one day of silence every week. If one day is
too much, try a period of time when you are
consciously not talking. Instead, pay
attention to your thoughts. Creating and
Fostering a Healthy Socio-Emotional
Environment encourages you to pay close
attention to what you say and develop a
sense of competency in your social
Speaking of healthy socio-emotional
environments, consider how your thoughts
affect you personally. Keeping a
Positive Attitude offers tips for dealing
with inner thoughts and feelings proactively.
Check my website, www.drdaleatkins.com
for updates on my appearances related to my
new book, Sanity
Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced
Life. And if you
me to speak to your group or organization,
please contact me directly at
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Creating and Fostering a Healthy Socio-Emotional Environment
We all need to care about other people and
feel as if we are cared about. It is part of
what makes us human. We need to understand
and respect everyone's personal boundaries
and when we are socially competent, we pick
up on the cues that let us know what and
where those boundaries are. Social competency
is about recognizing someone else's need as
well as asserting your own need. It is also
about accepting that when you are engaged
with another person you accept responsibility
for your actions.
So, how do you ensure social competency? It
helps when we feel confident in social
interactions with other people so that we
will take risks and stretch to meet and
engage with people who are different from us.
In this way we will likely expand our
personal horizons and have compassion for
others as well as for ourselves. When you are
socially competent you have a healthy sense
of self and you choose appropriate social,
communication and problem solving skills. You
avoid making another person feel diminished
in any way.
- Learn, Master, Succeed -
Learning something, mastering something and
succeeding contribute to helping you feel
socially competent. Not every interaction
will be positive but the more successful
interactions you have the more you can have
- Seek Role Models- Look to
excellent role models to see how they react
and interact in situations that you find
particularly stressful or challenging.
- Be Patient- Understand that
practicing patience may be at the root of a
Socially competent people accept what they
cannot change and adapt accordingly, usually
Anyone who wants to become more socially
competent needs to maximize opportunities to
teach, practice, enhance, model, and learn
the very skills they hope to develop.
TODAY Show (NBC)
May 9th: Empty Nest
Naomi's New Morning (Naomi Judd)
Please check back regularly for updated
Hallmark Channel, 10:00am
The Premier Women's Blogging Site: Sanity
The Lisa Birnbach Radio Show
Every other Wed., 9:15-10:00am
The Lisa Birnbach Show airs LIVE Mon-Fri
NJ Chapter of Hadassah
May 5th, 7pm: Keynote Speaker at Hadassah
Major Gifts Dinner
Michaelian and Kohlberg,
Michigan International Women's
May 6th, 11am:
Featured Speaker, Sanity
Book-signing, 11:45am -
Levy Home Entertainment/Meijer
Rock Financial Showplace,
46100 Grand River Avenue,
Novi, MI 48374
R.J. Julia's Bookstore
May 17th, 7pm: Author Talk: Sanity
Savers: Tips for Women for a Balanced Life.
Book-signing to follow.
The Caring Committee
May 20th, 9am-12pm: Moderator/Speaker,
Caring for the Aging Parent.
Chief Executives Organization
May 21st, 7pm: Keynote Speaker, CEO's
Financial Seminar: Successful Couples,
Dynamic Families: Is There Sanity Somewhere
in All This?
New York, NY
Jewish Book Council, Jewish Book
May 31st, 5-9pm: Meet the Author
Hebrew Union College-Jewish
Institute of Religion,
1 West 4th Street, New York, NY
A Good Daily Habit
Take a moment in silence every day and see
what comes up for you.
Be conscious, present and fully aware. Get to
know yourself in ways you never did before.
By experiencing silence, you can allow the
space between your thoughts to just be a
place for clarity and peace.
|Sanity SaversTM TIPS
Keeping a Positive Attitude
Focus on What Makes You Feel Resilient
When you are presented with challenges, it is
easy to become overwhelmed and despondent. Be
honest with your feelings, but concentrate
your efforts toward maintaining a positive
Some tips to consider:
- Take One Day at a Time -
Don't waste energy worrying about something
that may occur in the future. Focus on
immediate issues and approach each day
- Find and Follow Positive Mentors-
Regularly interact with people who can share
their experiences, advice, and support.
Support groups can be wonderful resources for
contacts and information to help you widen
your circle of mentors and friends.
- Trust Yourself and Your Inner Voice-
Answer only to your conscience, and do the
best that you can do at the time. By
listening to your inner voice, you can get to
know yourself in ways you never did before.
- Look at What You Have Accomplished-
Rather than focusing too much on what needs
to be done, take some time to consider what
you have already done. Be kind to yourself
and feel good about your accomplishments.
- Keep and Use a Sense of Humor- Be
with people who make you feel good and don't
take yourself to seriously. Remember,
cracking up with laughter is better than
cracking under the stress.
Accept that change and growth are part of
Take a break from talking, and instead listen
to your thoughts and heart.
DALE V. ATKINS Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist,
lecturer and commentator in the media who
on the Today show.
She has more than twenty-
years of experience and focuses on living a
life, parenting, aging well, managing stress,
work transitions, family connections and healthy
Dr. Atkins is the author
and/or co-editor of several books including:
Their Private Thoughts about their Private
Families and their Hearing-Impaired
OK, You're My Parents
Let Go of Anger and Create a Relationship that
Wedding Sanity Savers
Handle the Stickiest Dilemmas, Scrapes and
Questions that Arise on the Road to Your Perfect
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