As always, we continue to be faced with choices about
how to live our own lives. For some of us hearing
becomes a problem as we get older.
Whether you are a person who is having difficulty
hearing or you are close to someone who is having a
hearing problem, there are ways to make your life
better in Dealing
With a Hearing Loss.
Renewing and revitalizing are always important to
sanity saving but sometimes it takes some
REPROGRAMMING to allow yourself to take it easy
and relax. Please pay attention to
the tips I offer in Doing Too Much and Not
Today, March 1st, Barbara Scala and I will be
at Borders in Fairfield, CT at 7:00 pm, and on
6th at Barnes and Noble in Westport, CT at 7:00
talking about Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to
Balanced Life. Please see Happenings for
appearances related to the book.
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|Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life
Now In Bookstores!
SANITY SAVERS: Tips for Women to
Balanced Life is out in bookstores and is filled
with suggestions to save
every day of the week.
A must for any woman
seeking to find her balance!
Do you have difficulty hearing? Do you find yourself
turning the volume up on the TV or radio, have trouble
hearing from another room, miss some words in
normal conversations, ask people to speak louder,
pay very close attention to someone’s lips and facial
clues or avoid conversation or social situations?
Believe it or not, about one out of 10 people have a
hearing loss. As people age, often due to chronic
exposure to loud noises such as occupational noise
or loud music (and also heredity or some illnesses or
medications), they often experience a gradual loss of
hearing. What you are used to hearing sounds
different; misunderstanding occurs frequently. How
many times can you say, “Would you mind repeating
that? I am not sure I got it.”
Whether you are a person with a hearing loss or know
friends or family with one, have patience and listen up
to these Sanity Savers.
- Listen with Your Eyes - In addition to
getting used to wearing a hearing aid (it takes some
time), you can look at the person who is speaking and
pay attention to their facial and body language for
content cues. If you see how sounds are formed on
the lips, you can get the meaning (“cap” and “tap” may
sound the same but look different on the lips).
- Focus and Listen - Try to sit within 2 to 3
feet of the person who is speaking. Reduce the
background noise (radio, TV) and when in a
restaurant, try to sit against a wall and out of the center
of things. When you have a choice, select a quiet
setting, away from music, the kitchen, or anyplace that
may be noisy. Request that other people speak clearly
- Hearing Impairment Is Not an Intellectual
Impairment Talk in a normal voice unless you
know that the person needs you to speak loudly. Try to
slow down a bit; not so much that the person feels you
are "talking down" to them but enough so they can
follow you. Get their attention by saying their name
(NOT by tapping their shoulder) before you begin
talking. Be conscious that you need to be closeby -- try
to have them see your face. Whenever you are about
to leave a room (or are in a different room), do not
continue to talk. It is frustrating for both the speaker
and the listener to follow the conversation.
- Understand and Be Understood - Often
speaking in shorter sentences helps you to be
understood. If you are misunderstood, say what you
want to say in a different way. When you are changing
subjects, give the person the heads up so they can
follow the shift.
- Help Out in Social Settings - In the “what it
is worth” category, dinner parties and restaurants are
often very difficult for people who have hearing losses
because of the dim lighting and background noise.
When you are with other people, let the person know
that John is talking or Sue is speaking so they can
follow their conversation too.
About 1/3 of Americans who are over 60 years old and
½ of people who are older than 85 have some hearing
TODAY Show (NBC)
Watch for listing
in March when the Today Show revisits Sanity
times of upcoming segments will be posted
on Dr. Dale's website.
Naomi’s New Morning (Naomi Judd)
Upcoming segments will be posted
on Dr. Dale's
Hallmark Channel, 11:00am
The Morning Show with Mike and Juliet
March 1st: Sanity Savers
9:00 to 10am
The Lisa Birnbach Radio Show
Every other Wed., 9:20-10:00am
March 7th & 21st: To be announced
March 8th: Dr. Dale hosts the LISA BIRNBACH
The Lisa Birnbach Show airs LIVE Mon-Fri
Sanity Savers on the Air
Dan Gresham KFDM-TV KOLE News Radio
March 1st at 4:15pm EST
Bonnie Graham WGBB
March 16th 6:00-7:00pm
Sanity Savers Featured Author Talks
March 1: Borders*, Fairfield, CT 7:00pm
*Benefit Day for CancerCare
(10% discount donated to charity)
March 6: Barnes & Noble, Westport, CT
A Good Daily Habit
Do one thing to save your sanity every day.
Take a few minutes out of your schedule to de-stress,
Meditate, journal, take a walk outside, or grab a cup of
tea. There are all sorts of ways to savor a few
moments for yourself and get back to being balanced.
|Sanity SaversTM TIPS
Doing Too Much and Not Relaxing
As seen in Dr. Dale's new Sanity Savers book!
When you have a really busy week with lots of things
planned, even if they are fun things, you may get
stressed just because there is a lot going on. Even
though you are aware of your stress you cannot sit still
and relax. Basically you are always doing something
because if you aren’t doing something, you feel as if
you are wasting time. It is kind of a “Catch 22”.
Keeping your sanity while keeping yourself in check
takes practice and a change of attitude about
what “busy” means.
- Revisit and Rethink What Busy Means -
Does busy mean worthwhile? If you are not busy does
it mean you are lazy, not contributing, not making a
difference? Only you can change your perception of
what busy means. Everyone, even the busiest of
people, needs to kick back, relax, and renew in order
to restore their life’s balance.
- Plan Fewer Things- Just do things as you
feel like doing them or
don’t do anything at all.
- If the Spirit Moves You- Participate in
activities because you want to and not because you
have a list of things to do in your calendar.
- Allow “Holes” in Your Calendar – Deal
with any anxious feeling from empty time in your
schedule by breathing deeply. Tell yourself those are
your health pockets of time to restore. You feel
stressed when your calendar is full. Try to de-stress
as you attempt to empty it a bit.
Busy does not equal worthwhile.
If you ask what is the single most important key to
longevity, I would have to say it is avoiding worry,
stress and tension. And if you didn't ask me, I'd still
have to say it.
George Burns (1896 - 1996)
DALE V. ATKINS Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist,
lecturer and commentator in the media who appears
on the Today show.
She has more than twenty-
years of experience and focuses on living a balanced
life, parenting, aging well, managing stress, life &
work transitions, family connections and healthy
Dr. Atkins is the author
and/or co-editor of several books including:
SistersFrom the Heart:
Their Private Thoughts about their Private
Families and their Hearing-Impaired
OK, You're My Parents
Let Go of Anger and Create a Relationship that
Wedding Sanity Savers
Handle the Stickiest Dilemmas, Scrapes and
Questions that Arise on the Road to Your Perfect
book . . .
Savers: Tips for Women to Live a
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